10 Tested, Tried and Trusted Ways To Cope With Stress

You are increasingly tired and restless. You laugh less. You've recurring headaches. You overreact to relatively trivial things. These are symptoms you're under enormous stress. Where do you get strength to juggle between housework, employment and family affairs? You're constantly bombarded with serious and mundane issues competing for your attention. How do you adjust and manage in stressful situations? You can cope with stress if you take ten tried, tested and trusted ways outlined in this article.

1. Identify the Source of Stress


"I felt tired, putting on a solid face, assuring my tearful son. "Howard will not touch your bicycle again. Now go and continue playing," Jane pleaded with Sam her youngest six year old son. She didn't want to handle kids issue then. She had more serious marital problems to attend to.


One medical doctor defines stress as "wear and tear on the personality…uncorrected can result in physical or mental breakdown," Donald Norfolk a British osteopath who has made significant study on stress observed that stress comes from two main causes: "too little change or too much change." What is the cause of your stressful moods? You alone can identify the cause of stress in your life.

2. Petition Intention

Ask as many questions as you can to pin down the things which produce stress in your life. "Why am I worn out and torn apart by this incident?" Ask until you're able to pinpoint the source of your stress. Then set about building up ways to reduce strain causing you stress. Stop and study the situation.


"How much competition can I take without falling to pieces?" Jane let her imagination run wild causing her stress. "The most beautiful result from this experience was my renewed interest to work through this problem. Being a good, pleasing, interesting, loving wife - doesn't just happen," she recalls. Remember, "What lies behind us and what lies before are tiny matters compared to what lies within us," Walt Emerson said.

3. Personality Conflict


Your conscious and sub-conscious will work in harmony, if you reconcile the conflict within. Remind yourself of still available reserve strengths you posses to deal with emergency cases to avoid stress. "The body's range of power automatically enlarges the mind's pace automatically increases…" James Gilkey, the author of the book "When Life Gets Hard," says. Allow the body range of power to stretch out and you will be able to contain stress.

4. Pull of the Past


The ex factor is always daunting to talk about. You were in relationship which ended on a sour note. The idea of revisiting the subject brings back memories you wish to forget. You do not want to haul the old baggage into your new love life.


Keeping a tight lid on the matter provides the opportunity for advancement in the new relationship. However being completely secretive about the ex is a red flag everyone venturing into relationship keeps an eye on. You could be on rebound, which means you're yet to get over the ex. You're hanging in the air not sure whether to move on or back into the previous relationship. You can't get very far in that state of mind. You run the risk of falling into pull of the past trap. Make a decision and keep stress at bay now.

5. Prepare for the Crunch


You spend most of your waking life in a brightly-lit institution called the "The Office". You're intimately connected with people you would not meet and chat with on the street. You attend crucial meetings, write and respond to vital letters, circulate memos, drink numerous cups of coffee.


You are at your best in terms of strength in the office. The way you relate with others hinges on how much pressure you can take from colleagues. Your positive interpersonal relations with workmates guarantee you staying power. In some cases you have poor relations with colleagues. You can be pushed out and denied the friendship. Prepare for the crunch. There is nothing as depressing as being shut out by colleagues at the workplace. However, do not let stress take over and force you to quit. Hang in there!

6. Pay the Price


In the film industry, tension is created by showing a clock on the wall. This serves marvelous purpose in production of movies. In ordinary everyday life, tension creates negative impact. Nervous glances at a watch will generate anxiety when you are caught in traffic jam. Fretting will not change the state of affairs. What do you do to release pressure mounting as you twiddle your thumb waiting for the traffic to move?


"Don't push the river – let it flow," one maxim admonishes. You could meditate; listen to music, inspirational talk message from the car CD player. Engage your creative mind in something productive. If you're a writer, this is a great opportunity to shift through the rubble of new ideas for writing in the mind. Slot in productive activity to fill up the void.

7. Physical Exercise


Stress is as bad as any disease. It makes you want to go back to the drawing board, recheck your priorities and make changes to situations. But if stress gets out of control, it may harm your health and maybe your life as a whole.


Physical fitness decreases extreme physical and psychological exhaustion of the brain and body. If you're active you respond effectively to change than when you're exhausted. People who are fit are able to handle stressful situation and its long term effects than those who are not. Physical exercise is one of the best stress reduction techniques available. It involves a change of scene going to the gym, park, mountain, morning and evening walk in the neighborhood. How it works: 1) Exercise releases built up tension in the body. 2) Provides avenue for releasing emotional tension. 3) Promotes overall health and wellbeing. 4) Makes you focus on opportunities not obstacles. 5) Shifts attention off self, frustrations, failures to fulfillment. 6) Meditation as a form of exercise relaxes the mind. 7) Physical activity will improve your mental health.

8. Prevention is Better than Cure


The best way to prevent falling back into the hole of stress is to concentrate all your interests, attention and efforts on the single task ahead. The reason prolonged concentration capacity wane is your unwillingness to carry through with tasks. Let go of other concerns to dispel stress.

9. Patience Pays


Most households are run by women. The task of taking care of children, ensuring their happiness, providing appropriate and adequate meals is the principle role of the woman. Patience pays in performing these unending responsibilities.

10. Pursue Your Dreams


Time has a way of dulling the memory of pain. Giving birth to your first born son two years ago seems easier than going to the dentist today. Yesterday money worries become tomorrow's tales to laugh about. You want more life out of living. Pursue your dreams. You will not have room in your schedule for stress if you apply the ten tried, tested and trusted ways this article talks about to put stress behind.